Arguing and Being Right

Recently I overheard someone say, in so many words, “The thing I don’t like about arguing with (a group of people that will remain nameless) is that they always want to tell me I’m wrong.”

The point of arguing is not to be right or to win. The point of an argument is to get to facts, truth, or whatever you want to call it.

The need to be right is really about the fear of being wrong. If we can get past our fears we can begin to build consensus. Winning isn’t everything.